What images or words pop into your mind when you think about the word PEACE and what it means for your family in your home? It's not a trick question and "peace in your family and home" is not an oxymoron. I'm looking forward to March and our K-5th grade Life App ... peace! And I'm guessing if you're the owner of an elementary kid, you will be, too! The definition of peace we'll be helping them discover is this: proving you care more about each other than winning an argument. If your family is like most, the arguments often begin when a rule is broken or not followed the way you intended it to be. Yes, rules and boundaries are necessary in parenting, but....
In the book "Parenting Beyond Your Capacity" (highly recommended - buy it here!) there is a chapter titled "Fight for the Heart". In it, the authors give a warning about the danger of passing down rules to your kids without the context of a loving relationship. They write, "Too often, parents think their primary goal is to get their children to follow the rules. One of the greatest gfits parents can give to their children is simply to provide that parents can be trusted over the long haul." Trust can be broken when a parent "disciplines in anger, uses words that communicate rejections, ignore their kids' voices, don't try to understand who their kids really are, break core promises, take things too personally." Ouch.
I'm so thankful that Father God fights for our hearts, aren't you? That regardless of our attitude or actions (following the rules?), while we were still sinners, He reached through time and gave us Jesus, His only Son to save the world, not condemn the world (John 3:16-17). Love in action and a demonstration of peace with arms wide open to have a personal relationship with each and every one of us.
Think back to the last time you fought WITH your kids. Now think what it might look like to fight FOR your kids.
Looking forward to celebrating Easter with your family and the peace Jesus brought for us! I'll be praying for you and your peace.
Praying for you and cheering you on,
Kids & Families Director