by Pastor Jermaine Keller

Dirty Little Secrets – part 1

Parents are the most effective guard against kids getting involved in pornography. Period. We have met many parents who are just clueless about what is going on out in the real world, we hear this all the time:
"Well, my little Johnny wouldn't be looking at nude pictures on the web!"
"My house is safe because we have filtered Internet."
"My little angel only chats with friends online and would never talk to a stranger."
It's time for you to get involved in their life. Ask the tough questions. Talk about the dangers. We realize talking about porn is as hard as talking about sex. Get out of your comfort zone; your kid is worth it.

Hey Parents, Here are some things you need to BUY!
#1. Questions You Can't Ask Your Mama Book. It will cost you $10 but it is well worth it to find out all the questions you kids are too afraid to ask you. Get inside their head and see what they really want to know. Get this and be more prepared.

#2 How To Talk To Your Kids about PORN DVD. Mike and Craig don't have all the answers but have a lot of good ways for you to address this issue in your family. This DVD contains interviews with Mike, Craig, and some other special guests.

#3 Download X3watch. Join 100,000 other people who are using this software and having accountability on the Internet. And the best part, it is FREE! This software monitors all Internet activity on your computer and sends a report of any questionable site accessed to 2 people of your choice.

Hey Parents, Here are some things you may need to DO!

• Banning all access to the Internet is one solution. Unfortunately, this approach carries with it a huge educational disadvantage; the Internet today is the greatest single educational reference resource available. More information, from more sources, is available here than in any library in the world.
• Personally supervising all Internet access is another solution. This is great, if you have the time.
• Switch ISP providers to one that only offers filtered Internet. Integrity Online (www.integrity.com)
• Check with your Internet Service Provider and Browser for any controls already on offer (www.parentscentre.gov.uk)
• Use child friendly Search Engines like Yahooligans (www.yahooligans.com) or Ask Jeeves Kids (www.ajkids.com)
• Don't assume all child friendly search engines to be 100% safe. There have been instances of some advertising porn sites. So take an active role in your children's Internet searches.
• Regularly check the History folder on your Browser as it contains a list of recently visited sites. It is easy to accidentally stumble across pornography, especially as many porn sites use innocent words in their addresses (e.g. Whitehouse and Barbie, etc.) So don't jump to conclusions if the History folder lists a porn site. If you discover sites that have been accidentally opened, delete the address from the history folder.
• Unwanted Email or SPAM, is a very popular with online porn companies. They can be very difficult to filter out so it's a good idea to check the email inbox and deleting it before surfing the Internet with you children. Never reply to unsolicited Emails or unsubscribe from receiving further emails, as these actions will only confirm that the email address is in use.
• Super Highway Safety Site Advice for schools on Internet safety from the Department for Education and Skills (www.safety.ngfl.gov.uk)
• Childnet International Key safety issues and how best to discuss Internet safety with children (www.childnet-int.org)
• Get Net Wise Challenge yourself and learn how your children can use the Internet Safely (www.getnetwise.org)
• About: Internet safety Take the tutorial for Internet safety (http://familyinternet.about.com/library/safety/blsafety1.htm)
• McAfee.com Kids - For Grown Ups US site with level headed information (kids.mcafee.com/forgrownups/default.asp)
• Be Safe Online This site has been developed to make adults more aware of how to use the Internet safely, so they can encourage safe behavior online among children and young people. (www.besafeonline.org)
• Visit Kidsmart – a safety site with resources and activities for families and teachers including some interactive games. (www.kidsmart.org.uk
• Visit BrowserSmart - Acts as a personal Internet portal, providing access to a 'white list' of approved web sites. The system administrator can add new sites as required and allocate them to individuals for all.(www.browerslock.com)
• Keep your kids safe A new site with product reports and information about what software you need to have installed on your computer to keep your family safe online. (www.keepyourkidssafe.net)

Speak with Pastor Jermaine for more information, resources and help or visit www.xxxchurch.com. Also look for Dirty Little Secret part #2.